Manual stimulation or fingering can be an intimate and pleasurable aspect of sexual exploration as it may enhance the physical and emotional bond between lovers. It does, however, need attention, care, and communication, just like any other kind of sexual action. The experience can be more enjoyable and fulfilling for all parties involved if you know the dos and don’ts of fingering, regardless of your expertise level.

DOS

(1)   MAKE SURE YOUR HANDS ARE CLEAN

Visiting your neighbourhood salon every time you want to engage in a bit of finger action is unnecessary. It merely implies that maintaining good hand cleanliness is essential to enjoying safe and enjoyable fingering. The environment in your vagina is delicate, which is more reason why you should exercise caution when sticking anything in or near it, and this includes your hands as well as your partner’s. To do this, you should moisturise your hands frequently, trim your nails (a short, blunt edge works ideal), maintain good hygiene, and wash your hands before and after sexual activity.

(2)   TURN THEM ON

Since vaginal lubrication is essential for effective penetration, fingering can be uncomfortable if the receiving partner is not fully aroused. While every person (and every situation) is unique, it is best to give the vaginas 20 to 45 minutes to reach full arousal. To arouse your spouse, try kissing, caressing their breasts, touching their inner thighs, or doing anything else that helps them feel aroused before you insert your finger.

(3)   PLAY AROUND WITH THE CLITORIS

Before penetration, break out your DJ-ing skills and take two fingers (your index and middle) and flatten them like a DJ would on a turntable. Then, gently use your fingers to rub your partner’s clitoris in circular motions, increasing speed and intensity gradually.

(4)   START WITH ONE FINGER

Penetration should start when your partner has been turned on, lubricated appropriately, and has had their clitoris pleasantly massaged. Insert it slowly, starting with a single finger, into their vagina. The index or middle finger is the most excellent option, but feel free to use whichever finger you (and your partner) feel most comfortable with. To tease your lover, glide in and out while increasing in speed to tease your partner. You can move on to two fingers if you notice that your partner is fully ready for it. Make use of your index and middle finger to stroke your partner’s anterior vaginal wall, which is also the same as the front wall of the vagina.

DON’TS

(1)   DON’T IGNORE THE CLIT

Pay more attention to the clit while fingering. It is essential to build your partner’s pleasure.

(2)   DO AWAY WITH LONG, SHARP NAILS

Long nails could injure you or your partner, so you need to trim and clean your nails before you get into action.

(3)   DON’T BE TOO FAST

Fingering fast like an automatic drill isn’t good or pleasurable. It is advisable to take your time and take things slow.

(4)   DON’T FINGER FOR TOO LONG

You should end it if it continues for longer than ten minutes. Better still, ask whether she’s ready for sex, get down there with your tongue, or call it a night.

(5)   DON’T PUSH YOUR FINGER IN TOO FAR

Avoid pushing your finger in too far, as if you are reaching for her stomach unless you are trying to pluck out her large intestine.

CONCLUSION

When fingering, take your time and don’t rush the process. Hurrying might result in discomfort or lost possibilities for enjoyment. Rather, concentrate on savouring the moment and discovering each other’s bodies at a speed that suits you both.

Dorcas Akintoye
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Dorcas Akintoye is a versatile writer with a passion for beauty, fashion, relationships, and culinary delight. With a keen eye for detail and a passion for storytelling, she adds a touch of elegance to every topic she explores. She is a writer at THEWILL DOWNTOWN.