Kissing Etiquette: Navigating The Dos And Don’ts of Intimate Lip Locking
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- April 12, 2024
A person can never know too much about kissing and love. As much as our lips convey a lot, there’s no better way to validate what we already know—that a kiss is more than just a kiss. It’s an underlying chemical signal and a complex aspect of courtship that helps evaluate and sustain a relationship. Even though a bad first kiss might turn a relationship into a bad one for both parties, men are more inclined to give someone who had a horrible first kiss another chance.
DOS
(1) ASK FOR CONSENT
Before you kiss someone for the first time, ask a question to ensure you understand the scenario right. From there, you can either use words and actions to create the mood or utilise body language, such as getting closer or pecking their cheek, to establish the moment. Apart from the fact that consent is necessary, it can also be pretty sexy.
(2) USE YOUR HANDS
Place your hands where they feel most comfortable, even if it may initially feel a little strange. You can use one hand to brush your partner’s hair and the other to slip around their neck. You can always place your hands on your partner’s hips or lower back if you are not the same height as them but don’t overthink it.
(3) GRADUALLY INCREASE THE INTENSITY
There’s no need to rush into a heavy make-out session. However, you might not want to prolong a single kiss. Build the kiss up gradually to anything more. Never be scared to communicate your preferences to your partner through body language. It’s essential to communicate, even non-verbally.
(4) TAKE A BREAK FROM THEIR LIPS
Don’t be scared to move locations as the kiss intensifies. A sequence of kisses on their earlobe, collarbone, or jawline could constitute a good kiss.
DON’TS
(1) DON’T PUT YOUR TONGUE BEFORE YOUR MOUTH
It’s not good when people lead with their tongues. The tongue is a garnish; if it’s working well, keep it up and use more of it. If it is not, leave the training wheels on for a bit so as not to frighten her.
(2) STOP THINKING SO MUCH ABOUT YOUR NEXT MOVE
It is not a chess game. It’s a kiss. Although it can be tempting to obsess over what you believe the other person will likely do next in an attempt to be prepared, all it accomplishes is pull you out of the present, which is the last thing you would want to happen.
(3) CONTROL YOUR SALIVA SO IT DOESN’T BECOME A RIVER THAT RUNS THROUGH YOU BOTH
This is very important in kissing. Try as much as possible to control your saliva so your partner won’t need a cup to spit into because they are drowning in your spit.
(4) KEEP YOUR MIND FROM DRIFTING OFF INTO YOUR TO-DO LIST
You are sincerely in love with the person you are kissing. Consider how often that occurs. Trying to remember all the reasons why you wanted to kiss them in the first place will improve the kissing experience for both of you.
Therefore, resist the urge to spoil the moment by thinking about pointless, random thoughts.
CONCLUSION
We kiss for several reasons, but primarily, it’s because it can feel amazing. Therefore, you would undoubtedly concur that the best kisses are those that you and your lover enjoy sharing. Remember that these tips are only ideas. You can use as many or as few of them as you choose.
Dorcas Akintoye is a versatile writer with a passion for beauty, fashion, relationships, and culinary delight. With a keen eye for detail and a passion for storytelling, she adds a touch of elegance to every topic she explores. She is a writer at THEWILL DOWNTOWN.
