Just as the name implies, sexual incompatibility is when two partners have differing sexual needs, desires, or preferences. Each partner may enjoy different types of foreplay, fantasies, intensity, or even frequency of sex. It can affect both long-term and new relationships and, in most, serve as a deal breaker. The inability of couples to connect on a sexual level comes with a lot of challenges, which is why couples must be willing to learn how to bridge the gap and meet each other’s sexual needs. This article will explore six ways couples can overcome sexual differences.

 

 

(1)    CREATE A LIST

The very first thing to do is to list your sexual needs and discuss them with your partner. This will make it easier for you both to identify what’s important in your intimate relationship, what you are both willing to work on and what’s hard for you both to improve on. Creating this list goes a long way in highlighting areas of divergence and alignment in your sexual relationship, and most importantly, it helps to lead to a constructive way forward.

 

 

(2) COMMUNICATE IN A SAFE SPACE

When discussing with your partner, it is very important for you to pick a space where you both feel comfortable and relaxed. Your living room or backyard deck might be great for this conversation. Just ensure you don’t choose a space or area where past conflicts have occurred.

 

 

(3) EXPLORE NEW THINGS

It is important to try stepping out of your comfort zone. Try to explore different ways you and your partner can incorporate sexual intimacy and physical intimacy into the relationship. Look out for books, research for different positions you and your partner might be interested in, and work to explore each other’s bodies, and in no time, you will start seeing improvement in your sexual life. The more you and your partner work to explore each other sexuality, the more comfortable and familiar you will become; this will, in return, increase the sexual compatibility between you both.

 

(4) STAY OPEN-MINDED

While addressing sexual incompatibility in your relationship, you need to be open to compromise and flexibility. If your partner is the type with a higher sex drive, you both need to agree on a schedule that you know works for both of you or maybe give them the freedom to masturbate. If your partner happens to be the type that struggles to have the desire to engage in sex as much as you’d like, try to have a discussion with them and decide on what works best for you both.

 

(5) TAKE OUT PRESSURE

You and your partner need to communicate the needs and boundaries and how those needs can be honoured to avoid unnecessary pressure. Sex is not mainly vaginal-penile intercourse; there are other ways to reach orgasm, which include non-penetrative sex and outercourse. Some other examples are foreplay, masturbation, and the like. These options allow all needs and boundaries to be met without making both partners feel blamed or ashamed.

 

 

(6) COMMITMENT

Each partner must be committed to improving their sexual compatibility, including having the willingness to try and have a genuine conversation about their insecurities, their desires, and what sex means to them. Both partners need to be on the same page to increase sexual satisfaction within the relationship.

 

 

Dorcas Akintoye
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Dorcas Akintoye is a versatile writer with a passion for beauty, fashion, relationships, and culinary delight. With a keen eye for detail and a passion for storytelling, she adds a touch of elegance to every topic she explores. She is a writer at THEWILL DOWNTOWN.