The dating scene has been a tumultuous journey for many, filled with emotional exhaustion and heartbreak. However, as we step into a new year, it’s time to reassess our approach to dating and relationships. Healthy, fulfilling relationships are still achievable, but it requires shedding some unproductive habits and mindsets.

Here are four philosophies to consider for a healthier dating experience.

Embrace Abundance Over Scarcity

The belief in a limited pool of potential partners often leads to settling for less. This scarcity mindset can trap you in unsatisfying relationships where minimal effort and poor communication become the norm. Break free from this cycle. Aim for relationships where mutual respect and consistent effort are the foundation. Remember, you deserve someone who offers more than just the occasional breadcrumb of attention.

Stay Away from Situationships

The allure of situationships can be strong, especially when physical attraction and a longing for companionship come into play. However, it’s crucial to distinguish between a genuine desire for commitment and mere convenience. Avoid situationships that offer no clear future. Instead, pursue relationships that align with your commitment goals and shared values. Pay close attention to actions, not just words, to gauge a person’s true intentions.

Be Open to Different “Types”

Reevaluate your strict dating preferences. While having a type isn’t inherently wrong, inflexibility can limit your chances of finding a truly compatible partner. Reflect on whether being rigid in certain criteria (like height, job titles, or salaries) has positively contributed to your dating life. While core values and beliefs should remain non-negotiable, being open-minded in other areas can broaden your horizons and lead to more meaningful connections.

Prioritize Open Communication

Clear and honest communication is key to avoiding misunderstandings and unmet expectations. It’s unfair and unrealistic to expect someone to meet needs they aren’t aware of. Be upfront about your values, communication style, faith, and relationship expectations. When you express your needs clearly, it gives the other person a chance to respond appropriately. Remember, the goal is to recognize and appreciate genuine effort, not perfection.

Following these rules won’t instantly guarantee a relationship, but they will position you for healthier and more satisfying connections.

Embrace this year as an opportunity for personal growth and the chance to forge meaningful relationships built on respect, understanding, and shared goals.

Ntianu Obiora
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Ntianu Obiora is a versatile creative professional with over a decade of experience in publishing, marketing, communications, and digital strategy. She is the Online Editor at THEWILL DOWNTOWN