Setting Boundaries: The Art of Saying No
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- May 14, 2024
As humans, we each have our own beliefs and values, from a personal point of view, based on cultural heritage or religious beliefs. Whatever it may be based on, we try our best to uphold those values. As we journey through life, one of the most essential skills we must develop is setting boundaries. These boundaries safeguard our well-being, values, and priorities, too. As part of creating boundaries, knowing when to say no is paramount when staying true to ourselves. This article delves into setting boundaries by saying no when necessary.
Clarify Priorities
Saying no at the right time protects your interests; it could be things you need to do at home, work, or for your education. Before committing yourself to an opportunity, you need to set your priorities and know if this new opportunity will interfere with what you have already set out to accomplish, especially if you are on a deadline. We all have what’s keeping us busy at different times; if what you have on your to-do list will be affected by an activity that brings no profit or has no importance, then saying no is the right thing to do.
Assertive Communication
One thing about some people is that if you show a bit of hesitation or indecisiveness, they will take advantage of it and try to pressure you more to do what they want. For this reason, one has to be assertive when saying no and do your best not to seem shy or have your voice shaking. Also note that being assertive isn’t being rude; be direct and firm, but not rude. Instead of saying, “I don’t think I can do this”, a firm way would be, “I wouldn’t be able to do this”.
Offer Alternatives
Say you cannot perform a request at that particular time; offering alternatives could be ideal, especially if such a request is not time-sensitive. You could suggest a different time frame or place or offer to support fulfilling the request in another way.
Set Clear Limits
Be clear and specific about your boundaries, and do not give room for anyone to misinterpret you in any way. Make them understand your dos and don’ts. This way, they will know what they should table before you and what not to bring up.
Accept Reactions
When setting boundaries, not everyone will respond positively. Some people could start seeing you in a bad light, especially since they wouldn’t be able to exploit you and your emotions. Learn to accept the different reactions you will get as a result of setting boundaries; it’s inevitable.
Setting boundaries is an essential aspect of self-care and maintaining healthy relationships. Many people have issues saying no, mainly because they are scared of conflict or disappointing people, but one needs to understand that putting yourself first at times is essential.
Johnson Chukwueke
Johnson Chukwueke is a content and creative writer with over 3 years of experience as a professional. A microbiology graduate from the Imo State University, Johnson is a music enthusiast who also enjoys movies, reading, and swimming. He is a writer at THEWILL DOWNTOWN.
