Last week, we introduced the #Unshakable mindset and focused on the fact that it is a personal journey, often filled with complex choices and shades of grey. Through stories A to F, I aimed to illustrate how this mindset can guide us through life’s challenging decisions.

Did you find your own insights within those stories? Let’s continue this journey together as we explore what it truly means to be #unshakable.

G for Grace

This year has repeatedly called me to find meaning in this word. In a podcast with a friend, I realised that to receive grace, we must also give it. Giving grace doesn’t mean losing ourselves; it means understanding our boundaries. Boundaries may be like walls, but those walls have doors and windows. Here’s what happened —

Amara sat quietly in the kitchen, her mother’s words still echoing in her mind. They’d argued again — her mother’s remarks had stung, and Amara felt misunderstood. As she sat, a thought rose within her: give grace. She took a breath, reminding herself that love can look different from what we expect.

Picking up her phone, Amara sent a message: ‘I know you love me, even if it’s sometimes hard to feel.’  Her mother replied almost immediately.  Grace flowed between them, mending old wounds.

Grace is love in action.

H for home

For me, ‘heart and home’ are inseparable. As a migrant, I’ve learned to adapt — to blend in and be what’s expected, adjusting to fit each setting. It’s that classic “when in Rome” approach, shaped by whether the environment feels familiar enough to let my guard down.

In a recent podcast, a guest noted my many friendship circles and asked if I was truly myself within each. I told her I wouldn’t be part of any group where I couldn’t feel comfortable. My favourite friendships are those where I can break down and still be seen as strong. She smiled, and I shared the highest compliment I give: “You feel like home.”

Home is where the heart finds safety and peace.

I for introspection

I frequently practice introspection to ensure I am:

  1. Staying true to myself
  2. Presenting the best version of myself

These traits define an #Unshakable woman. Consider the story of India:

After months of reflection, she peeled back layers she had long ignored. Her relationship felt stagnant, revealing her false hopes and fear-driven ignorance of red flags. Confronting her habits of self-doubt and avoidance was uncomfortable, but she realised real change required honesty. She ended the relationship, committing to rebuild herself with intention and integrity.

Last week, standing beside a partner who valued her true self, India said, “I do”—and meant it fully.

While life is more complex than a Disney story, you get the gist, right?

J for jealousy

The key difference between healthy and unhealthy jealousy is how it’s managed. Healthy jealousy is normal and temporary, arising from perceived threats, while unhealthy jealousy is toxic and rigid. After facing emotional challenges, I’ve learned to recognise my jealousy, but the real test is being honest about its type.

Take Juliet, for example. Jealousy flared when she saw her boyfriend, Romeo, chatting with an old friend. She took a deep breath, acknowledging her feelings, and later shared them calmly with him, leading to laughter and reassurance.

In contrast, Jade experienced jealousy like a tidal wave, obsessively checking her partner’s phone. Juliet’s jealousy sparked growth, while Jade’s fuelled distrust.

Can you admit to feeling jealous sometimes?

K for kissing

I could have found other insightful words that start with K, but kissing is vital—not least because it burns 2-3 calories per minute!

After weeks of silence, Kate and Kris sat across from each other, tension thick in the air. Words failed them until Kate leaned in, heart racing, and pressed her lips against Kris’s, reigniting a spark smothered by doubt.

That kiss transformed everything; it became an unspoken promise to communicate, forgive, and rebuild. It reminded them of their love and renewed their commitment.

So, I encourage you to embrace the power of a kiss this week! Spread some love, and I’ll ‘see’ you next week!

Sally Chiwuzie
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