#Unshakable is a mindset — a recognition open to everyone, regardless of gender, lifestyle, or status. It is a conscious choice to embrace self-love, authenticity and truth. Rather than seeking perfection, it inspires you always to be the best version of yourself: a personal journey with flexible, evolving rules. Its only requirement is honesty.
If life were perfect, no guidelines would be needed, and this column would not exist. In reality, life is like looking left and right before crossing the road and getting hit by an aeroplane. Consider these examples. What would you do?

A  for Amber
Amber sat at her favourite café – Twirling Spoon in Hamstead Suburbs, staring at two job offers. Much akin to the typical traffic light prompts, she felt like she was stuck on amber. One promised stability, the other adventure. Torn between her family’s expectations and her dreams, the ambiguity weighed on her. She closed her eyes, letting go of external pressures, and asked herself: “What feels true to me?” The answer came quietly but clearly—she had always longed for exploration and growth. Trusting her intuition, she chose the adventurous path. It wasn’t the safe option, but it was honest.
Adventure vs Stability. You choose.

B for Battlefield
Buchi sat in bed, the echoes of last night’s argument still fresh. His relationship with Beulah had become a battlefield—each conversation a skirmish, a war of emotions, violence – toxic! There were practical reasons to stay: the shared mortgage, years of history, their intertwined lives, their family – the scandal. Logic told him to endure, but deep down, he knew it was draining his spirit. “I have to go,” he said quietly, his voice steady. It wasn’t easy, but leaving was his act of self-preservation—a decision rooted in reclaiming his peace.
Would you stay?

C for Cross roads
At the crossroads of her life, Christina stood with a suitcase in hand, the weight of her dreams pressing against her heart. The decision to migrate was daunting; her family urged her to stay, citing safety and stability. But deep inside, a voice whispered of new horizons and untold adventures. As she gazed at the bustling street, the sounds of laughter and opportunity enveloped her. She closed her eyes, took a deep breath, and listened to her inner voice. Ignoring the doubts, she stepped forward into the unknown, determined to embrace the life she truly desired.
Do you think Christina would regret this decision in five years?

D for Discipline
As the sun dipped below the horizon, Dumebi faced a familiar dilemma: should she pour a whiskey to drown her anxiety or lace up her running shoes to chase it away? The bottle glimmered enticingly, promising an escape from her racing thoughts, while the running trail called to her a path to clarity and strength. Heart pounding, she hesitated. Memories of past nights spent in regret tugged at her. With a deep breath, she chose her sneakers over the glass. As she ran, the weight of anxiety began to lift, reminding her that the healthier option was worth every step. What do you think she did when she got home, though? Sigh.

E for Empathy
Esmee prided herself on her empathy, always ready to lend an ear or a shoulder to cry on. But when her friend began leaning heavily on her, sharing his every problem and expectation, she felt the weight grow unbearable. One evening, while he vented about his latest crisis, she interrupted. “I care about you, but I can’t be your only support.”
Esmee sighed, relieved. Setting boundaries didn’t mean she cared less; it meant she could offer her best self without losing herself.
This conversation is only this easy in the movies (and in articles in THEWILL, DOWNTOWN)

F for Faith (and Fate) 
Faith and Francess were inseparable, battling cancer side by side. They shared laughter, tears, and dreams of a future beyond their illness. But when Francess lost her fight, Faith’s heart shattered. She was scheduled to speak at church about her unwavering faith and survival, but she was at Francess’s funeral instead. As she listened to the eulogies, doubts flooded her mind. What had faith done for Francess? What was the point of belief in the face of such fate? Faith clutched Francess’s photo, pondering the fragility of life, realising that sometimes, faith and fate felt impossibly intertwined.
This one broke my heart. What about you?

Sally Chiwuzie
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